I haven't updated this thing in awhile. Work has actually picked up for me a bit, not allowing me to put all necessary energy into screwing around on the internet. How DARE they!?!?! Eh, such is life.
Good things: Today I went to pick up a slew of paperwork for our '1st trimester screening'. I have an appointment next week, and at that time I get to go give them more blood for the first part of the NT scan. The week after that, I get to go to Oakland (seriously? nothing closer? Nope. Oh, ok, thanks.) and have the ultrasound where they measure the amount of space in the spinal column to see if there's downs or spina bifida (let's hope all that folic acid I've been taking has done it's job!) The week after that? 1st trimester class or "Early pregnancy class". I think it's funny because they actually signed me up for that at the first boring clerk appointment (remember the 20 forms and blood work? yup, that one). Anyway, I'll actually be OUT of my first trimester the day of the class (13w,3d). Oh well. I'm sure it will allow me to plan for the rest of the pregnancy.
The OTHER really good thing is: My mom and dad sent me a package from http://www.brownies.com of super yummy brownies and hot cocoa. Yum! Lately it's been dropping in the 30's at night (for those in the midwest, yes, I complain about this because I live in California and we aren't supposed to 'literally' freeze here!) and so the hot cocoa sounds SO good right now. Plus, it came just in time for our 'date night' tonight. I'm going to make my husband watch the movie "Waitress" with me. He'll hate every minute, but I'll feed him some of the brownies, so that will make up for the 'chick flik'
Update on me: I'm feeling ok. Sometimes great! Sometimes like crap. Just hanging in there. Bloat has minimized just a bit, but I notice it's been replaced with fat. Awesome. I haven't weighted myself in a bit... maybe I'm too scared? I can start to feel where the uterus is rising out of my pelvis. (Just a bit). Boobs are less sore, too. OK, enough complaining.
This weekend we're going to a friends "Ugly Christmas Sweater" party. I can't wait! I can only hope I can stay up and not have to leave 10 minutes after showing up (because I'm pooped)! So the host and hostess are friends of ours, and they're expecting their first baby in May. They were the ones that we went out with the night that I got my BFP. Of course we didn't tell them that we're expecting then, but we plan to tell them at their party. I told her via email that if I could get my shit together, I'd have a surprise for them on Saturday. This is two-fold: First surprise: I'm due just about a month after her! Second surprise: I'm actually almost finished with a cute pair of hand-knit booties for them.
Anyway, looking forward to the weekend. Hope you all are, too!
10w,4d
Friday, November 30, 2007
Monday, November 26, 2007
Things I've learned thus far...
So, I'm officially a quarter of the way through my pregnancy! Wow, that went quick! (guess it's because you technically don't know you're pregnant until you're about 4 weeks along, but whatever, I've known for 6.5 weeks, and that time has flown by.
Quick updates: the bloating is getting better, I'm steadily gaining weight, meat aversions have tapered off, then I ate so much freakin turkey this past weekend, if I see another piece of turkey, I'll barf, but not because of morning sickness... I think it's just too much tryptophan in my system! Anyway, right now? I'm feelin pretty darn good.
But, the point of this post is to note what I've learned thus far... so here it goes:
- The secret is hard to keep
- Once anyone other than your husband and you know, many, many people will know. Even if you ask nicely. Even if you ask very, very nicely and tell them that if something bad happens, they'll have to 'untell' all those that have been told that the pregnancy wasn't viable. People get excited, that's good. People like to share good news, that's good, but only when it's their news to share. We actually had to make a few 'emergency phone calls' to some close family friends because someone told another family friend. We wanted it to come from us. So, emergency phone call instead of planned weekend up to see said friends. Anyway, you get the picture.
- When people find out you'll get 3 questions right away:
1) will you find out the sex?,
2) Have you thought of names? and
3) How far along are you? (or, when's the baby due?)
- When question #3 is answered, they make a funny quizzical look (while they're doing the math in their head) and they quickly realize how long you've been keeping this a secret. This is when they're still super excited for your news, but they're slightly disappointed you didn't tell them the MINUTE that you found out that you were pregnant, that, well, you're pregnant. We've had multiple inquiries similar to the following: "Why didn't you tell us sooner?"
Well, actually, statitics show that the chance of miscarriage drops dramatically after x number of weeks (or after ______ milestone). I then would gently remind them that we, in fact, are sharing our news rather early. They don't fall for it. Eh, such is life.
- Have someone to blab to ... whether it be a super close friend, an online chat community (this can be a little dangerous, tread lightly), an acquaintance that is just close enough to be able to talk to, but won't blab because your circle of friends isn't close enough, whomever you choose, make sure you've got their trust. Oh, a blog works well, too. :)
Well, that's all I've got for today.
10 weeks even!
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Whew!
It's official, I've told my best friend. That was the hardest from me for a number of reasons.
#1 I knew it would be easy to come out, but I was still scared to (you think I'd be over that by now?!?)
#2 There's been some stuff going on in her life and I wanted to ride some of it out before dropping a bomb on her.
#3 I knew if I didn't tell her right from the beginning, I'd catch hell for it. And boy was I right for that one! (Good hell, she still loves me ... I think....)
Anyway... just a few more weeks before we make the announcement to the rest of the world, but all the important people are now very much aware! I feel so loved!
9w3d
Boss? Check! Friends? (almost) Check!
OK, yesterday was a big day. My boss (owner of a small company) and I meet up for drinks and a 'vent' session about once a month (at least, that's the goal). Looking back on it, he was the last person I had a drink with before my BFP. So, all day I was gearing myself up to tell him.
My mind was racing. I was thinking: "I'll tell him how dedicated of an employee I am, and that I won't let anything slip. He's known me long enough that he can trust me to get everything done, even with a newborn in tow" I had everything planned out. It was going to go so well.
Then, I got to the restaurant. He was parked right in front of me. We walked in, sat down. The way to attentive bartender arrived with menus stating "The wine list is on the back". Trying to stall, I asked for a cocktail list. He showed up with that in 2 second flat. Crap. My boss started to ask me what I wanted and I blurted out "I've got news!" (I'm such a dork, breathe, you can do this). "So, I'm... I'm pregnant."
He said "Oh! Wow! That's great! But why did you ask for the cocktail list? You can't drink."
"I was trying to stall time"
"Damn, now we can't go out for drinks" I was so relieved that that was his reaction. Not, AH! What's going to happen to the business!
Oh, and for the record: I had a lemonade with pomegranate juice... it's delish!
So then I proceeded to tell him that "every thing's going to be under control, I've got a plan, blah, blah, blah" He told me that was the least of his worries. His main concern was the drinking (which cracks me up!) We went on to discuss the ways my job could evolve and be really flexible so I can work from home. He also has another start up business that they'll need some part time help, and can totally be done at home. He's going to talk to the other partners as to how I can be involved as a new parent next summer, while at home with an infant. I have to admit, working for a small company can have some pretty awesome perks at times! He admitted that he and his wife are planning on trying to conceive in the spring. Exciting news!
Then, I left there, went home and picked up my husband. We were going to meet his closest friends for dinner at this new restaurant so we could tell them. We get there, one couple is missing (they're always late). Apparently one friend asked another friend about a week ago if she was pregnant, because she wasn't drinking... she complained to one of the female friends that he said that because she's getting fat. Not the case, apparently. When we heard that story, I kicked my husband, and he snickered quietly in my ear. So, after we've sat down, we ordered pitchers of margaritas (omg, I was drooling!) and I had a nice glass poured for myself (boo!) the other couple shows up. I kept nudging my husband to tell, he whispered in my ear that he's nervous. Then, the perfect opportunity! The "pregnant" conversation came up again between the guy that asked the girl if she's pregnant. So, my husband said "Well, it's funny you should bring that up, because she may not be pregnant, but we're going to have a baby!"
OMG, one of the girls got so excited! She came within inches of leaping over the table to tackle us! It was funny how there was such an uproar, and then one of the guys said "Are you guys serious?" His new wife turned to me and said "You're gonna be the first! You're going to be a mommy!!" All in all, a GREAT experience. Much better than some of the other reactions (thank goodness!)
OH! I almost forgot! My husbands grandparents found out yesterday, too. The stuffed monkey from build-a-bear arrived at their doorstep. I'm going to copy and paste what I wrote to my husband (the play by play) and then I'll tell you what comments they told us after:
"Well, at lunch, I checked to see if the package arrived. It was there. So, I called your mom to tell her to 'get ready'. She said she was going to give them a call shortly after she finished lunch to see if they got the T-day flowers and 'the package'.
So, your mom calls me back like a 1/2 hour later. She called, and spoke with Grandma. The weather is junky outside, so they were staying home. When your mom called, apparently there was a 'drug bust' or something going on in the neighborhood. 5 cop cars from different counties or something. Anyway, she said "Did you receive the flowers?"
"Yes, they're pretty"
"How about a package"
"Yes, I received a package, probably the clock I ordered... That got here FAST!"
"Mom, that clock is custom and will take 6 weeks, go open that package" it's at this point there's more scuffling with the police outside. Your mom asked "Mom, is Tot right there?"
"Yes, he's at the window."
"OK, good"
Grandma opens the package "Oh, it's a monkey. How cute is that"
Your mom: "See the arm? squeeze it"
Grandma: "It's a talking monkey"
"YES! Now listen to the monkey"
Then, she played it again, and they got it. They're both so excited. She was saying that her sister has 2 great grandchildren, and she's so happy one's on the way. Your mom said, "See! she only has 2, and you're going to have more, it's worth the wait"
So, we should be getting a call from Grandma and Grandpa this evening, around 5:30. They're going to wait to tell everyone at Thanksgiving dinner. They're going to give a seat to the monkey, when people ask what it is, they're going to push the button."
So, my husband received the call from his grandma and grandpa while I was out for 'drinks' with my boss. He said that his grandma said "I had given up!" and his grandfather was SO excited, he told my husband that "He's a man now" (omg, seriously? that's funny!). They're so excited to share the news with the rest of the family!
So, big blog update, thanks for hangin in there if you're still here!
9w3d
My mind was racing. I was thinking: "I'll tell him how dedicated of an employee I am, and that I won't let anything slip. He's known me long enough that he can trust me to get everything done, even with a newborn in tow" I had everything planned out. It was going to go so well.
Then, I got to the restaurant. He was parked right in front of me. We walked in, sat down. The way to attentive bartender arrived with menus stating "The wine list is on the back". Trying to stall, I asked for a cocktail list. He showed up with that in 2 second flat. Crap. My boss started to ask me what I wanted and I blurted out "I've got news!" (I'm such a dork, breathe, you can do this). "So, I'm... I'm pregnant."
He said "Oh! Wow! That's great! But why did you ask for the cocktail list? You can't drink."
"I was trying to stall time"
"Damn, now we can't go out for drinks" I was so relieved that that was his reaction. Not, AH! What's going to happen to the business!
Oh, and for the record: I had a lemonade with pomegranate juice... it's delish!
So then I proceeded to tell him that "every thing's going to be under control, I've got a plan, blah, blah, blah" He told me that was the least of his worries. His main concern was the drinking (which cracks me up!) We went on to discuss the ways my job could evolve and be really flexible so I can work from home. He also has another start up business that they'll need some part time help, and can totally be done at home. He's going to talk to the other partners as to how I can be involved as a new parent next summer, while at home with an infant. I have to admit, working for a small company can have some pretty awesome perks at times! He admitted that he and his wife are planning on trying to conceive in the spring. Exciting news!
Then, I left there, went home and picked up my husband. We were going to meet his closest friends for dinner at this new restaurant so we could tell them. We get there, one couple is missing (they're always late). Apparently one friend asked another friend about a week ago if she was pregnant, because she wasn't drinking... she complained to one of the female friends that he said that because she's getting fat. Not the case, apparently. When we heard that story, I kicked my husband, and he snickered quietly in my ear. So, after we've sat down, we ordered pitchers of margaritas (omg, I was drooling!) and I had a nice glass poured for myself (boo!) the other couple shows up. I kept nudging my husband to tell, he whispered in my ear that he's nervous. Then, the perfect opportunity! The "pregnant" conversation came up again between the guy that asked the girl if she's pregnant. So, my husband said "Well, it's funny you should bring that up, because she may not be pregnant, but we're going to have a baby!"
OMG, one of the girls got so excited! She came within inches of leaping over the table to tackle us! It was funny how there was such an uproar, and then one of the guys said "Are you guys serious?" His new wife turned to me and said "You're gonna be the first! You're going to be a mommy!!" All in all, a GREAT experience. Much better than some of the other reactions (thank goodness!)
OH! I almost forgot! My husbands grandparents found out yesterday, too. The stuffed monkey from build-a-bear arrived at their doorstep. I'm going to copy and paste what I wrote to my husband (the play by play) and then I'll tell you what comments they told us after:
"Well, at lunch, I checked to see if the package arrived. It was there. So, I called your mom to tell her to 'get ready'. She said she was going to give them a call shortly after she finished lunch to see if they got the T-day flowers and 'the package'.
So, your mom calls me back like a 1/2 hour later. She called, and spoke with Grandma. The weather is junky outside, so they were staying home. When your mom called, apparently there was a 'drug bust' or something going on in the neighborhood. 5 cop cars from different counties or something. Anyway, she said "Did you receive the flowers?"
"Yes, they're pretty"
"How about a package"
"Yes, I received a package, probably the clock I ordered... That got here FAST!"
"Mom, that clock is custom and will take 6 weeks, go open that package" it's at this point there's more scuffling with the police outside. Your mom asked "Mom, is Tot right there?"
"Yes, he's at the window."
"OK, good"
Grandma opens the package "Oh, it's a monkey. How cute is that"
Your mom: "See the arm? squeeze it"
Grandma: "It's a talking monkey"
"YES! Now listen to the monkey"
Then, she played it again, and they got it. They're both so excited. She was saying that her sister has 2 great grandchildren, and she's so happy one's on the way. Your mom said, "See! she only has 2, and you're going to have more, it's worth the wait"
So, we should be getting a call from Grandma and Grandpa this evening, around 5:30. They're going to wait to tell everyone at Thanksgiving dinner. They're going to give a seat to the monkey, when people ask what it is, they're going to push the button."
So, my husband received the call from his grandma and grandpa while I was out for 'drinks' with my boss. He said that his grandma said "I had given up!" and his grandfather was SO excited, he told my husband that "He's a man now" (omg, seriously? that's funny!). They're so excited to share the news with the rest of the family!
So, big blog update, thanks for hangin in there if you're still here!
9w3d
Monday, November 19, 2007
More people know!
Wow! This telling people is really, really fun! It's so exciting to have others confirm our excitement and joy knowing that we're going to have a baby! This weekend we told Aunts on my side of the family, a couple of really, really close family friends. Today or tomorrow my husband's grandparents are going to receive their talking monkey, that will inform them of their future great grandchild.
Tomorrow is a big day, we're telling all of my husbands close friends from high school, and I'm telling my boss. Yikes!
My mom was so excited this weekend, she kept asking if I had "my bloat belly" yet. The weekends it doesn't pop up as much as at work, I think because on the weekends I'm up and moving a lot more than at work. We went to Old Navy and picked up 2 pairs of work pants and a pair of loungers. I can't tell you what a difference this makes. I know it's early, but I was so, so, so uncomfortable last week (and the week before!) I figure even if I don't fit into these, they'll be good transition pants after I have the baby.
9w even!
Tomorrow is a big day, we're telling all of my husbands close friends from high school, and I'm telling my boss. Yikes!
My mom was so excited this weekend, she kept asking if I had "my bloat belly" yet. The weekends it doesn't pop up as much as at work, I think because on the weekends I'm up and moving a lot more than at work. We went to Old Navy and picked up 2 pairs of work pants and a pair of loungers. I can't tell you what a difference this makes. I know it's early, but I was so, so, so uncomfortable last week (and the week before!) I figure even if I don't fit into these, they'll be good transition pants after I have the baby.
9w even!
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